Random thoughts from a single girl

22 Aug 2010 1 Comment

by therevchick in My Life as a single girl

I am single. I am happy. I am whole. I want for nothing- not even a husband.

Its true. Gone are the days of my mid twenties when every prophetic word I could correlate with my husband coming. Gone are the days when every birthday and holiday was capped off with the hopeful, yet yearning statement, “Next year, I will get to do this with my husband, I just know it.” Gone are the days of settling where, every guy friend was a potential mate.

Thank God, for the Holy Spirit. Because being single, in my opinion, is not the most celebrated thing in Church.

Sadly, my experience in church has been that, most singles are lumped together as a group of marrieds-in-waiting.

If I am to be honest, I have felt like church culture sometimes fueled the i-need-a-husband-to-survive mentality in me.

The jokes about if your single raise your hand, now look around you and try to find a man.

The girlfriends that would look over at you and say, “Someday when you’re married” as if my life was not enough.

The books, workshops, seminars and services, taught only by married people, as if reinforcing the messaging that marriage is some graduation from singleness.

The holiday parties and workshops that charge a more expensive price for singles than couples

Being single is amazing.

Even typing that felt wrong, because I feel like we don’t say it enough. It is amazing. I am whole. I have a great job. I know my purpose. I want for nothing. I have great friends. Life is a great adventure. I love being single and I will love it until I’m not single anymore, and then I will love being married.

Because life is about rejoicing in your season. Its about loving right now, but still maintaining the ability to dream.

People could totally disagree. That’s totally okay with me. I am thankful for free will and free opinions.

I’m just really passionate about a singles revolution where every single person feels content in their season and squeezes every perfect drop of what being single should be until the winds of the season change.

Is this a preparation season for me? Sure! But I truly believe God is so big that I have to know that He is preparing me for more than a husband.

If you’re single, my prayer for you today, is that you rejoice in this amazing season. That you don’t miss amazing moments that are meant for you and you alone. I pray for good friends to surround you and you feel a wholeness so big, so vast, and so wide, that being married is an addition to your great life, but not part and participle of it.

If you’re married, my prayer for you is that you have received all of the greatness that should have been yours in your single season. If you didn’t I am thankful for the redemption of God, that allows you to receive all of that and more. I pray that when you minister to single people, that you prophesy their wholeness.

Just some random thoughts, from a happy single girl.

xoxo,

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