This blog can be called The Friendtervention or Being Iris…

08 Dec 2010 1 Comment

by therevchick in My Life as a single girl

About two weeks ago I was at a birthday party. As can tend to happen, I am usually one of the last people to leave. I think some of the best conversation happens after the crowd is gone. (That could be a blog post right there- BOOKMARK IT!)

For some reason, the conversation steered to, Renee why are you still single?

Married and in a relationship people, note-there is nothing scarier than being asked that question. In front of a group of people. Waiting for you to answer.

I started sweating. I got hot. I was stuttering. It made me cry.

I am telling you, I felt like it was an intervention. We were even sitting in a circle. At any moment, I was expecting my friends to whip out pieces of paper that said, if you refuse to go on dates, I will do the following…… If you watch intervention on A&E, you know that this stage is called the Ultimatum in which you tell the person that needs help that you will no longer enable them. I was sure that one of my friends was going to say, Renee if you do not go out with someone in the next 90 days I will no longer laugh at your jokes.

All kidding aside though, it was an interesting conversation. Although, I do not recommend the Friendtervention in the future. It was a great catalyst that forced me to admit that I may not put myself out there as much as I would like to say I do.

I don’t  hibernate and stay home all day and expect Prince Charming to come find me. I am outgoing. Social. Talkative (to say the least). But what I think I am most guilty of is Being Iris.

Confused? Don’t know who Iris is? Ahh let me explain…

There is this movie. One of the best Christmas movies to watch if you ask me. Its called “The Holiday.” The premise is these two women both unlucky in love switch houses for the holiday. There’s Cameron Diaz who goes to England. And Kate Winslet (Iris) who goes to California. In one of my favorite scenes, Iris sits down with an aging Hollywood legend, Arthur. And he tells her:

“Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend.“

If I’m gonna be honest, I categorize myself as the “best friend.” I have never seen myself as the leading lady. As a matter of fact, that role actually makes me feel uncomfortable. But as one of my friends said in my Friendtervention,”Maybe its time to do something uncomfortable. Do something you have never done before.”

She meant internet dating…but I think the quote still works here.

So although, I am not going to join sugardaddies4u.com, yahoo personals or something like that at this time, I am thinking about getting out there in a new way. Friendtervention mission accomplished. I guess.

xoxo,

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