Life in shades of Nae

Single Like a Girl

31 Aug 2009 5 Comments

by therevchick in My Life as a single girl, Random Thoughts Tags: children, girls, God, playground, single, twitter

I can summarize my thoughts on singleness in a tweet that I posted Saturday Night:

Being single is not a curse or this thing to “deal” with. Its a great time of preparation and [time to] build deep relationships.

This morning, while I was praying, I had this kind of dream/vision. It was a lot of my single friends and we were sitting at a park in a circle. It was game day. It felt really summery, like we had all the time in the world, and we had no other concerns but the next fun thing. It reminded me of recess when I was in elementary school. One of us was blowing bubbles, and the other hopping on one foot.

Sometimes, when I get visions like this, I wonder if I might have fallen asleep while praying, and maybe I am having a nonsensical dream. But something one of the ladies I look up to, Pastor Cynthia, says to do is, “always ask God.” So I did. And this is what the Holy Spirit revealed to me to tell all my single girlfriends.

“Be single like a girl.”

When we are younger the boys chase after the girls. We are never desperate for male attention, never compare popularity. We are just freely ourselves and the boys do the chasing.

When you’re a girl, you don’t wonder about your husband. You just dream and KNOW that someday, as Cinderella sings, your prince will come. There is no settling, no, he will do. We know that he will be great, and handsome, and smart and funny. Its the untainted dreams of a girl.

When you’re a girl, you trust that you are going to be taken care of. Food magically appears at night, clothes get cleaned without you knowing how, you never run out of something as small as toothpaste, cause someone always thinks ahead to get it for you.

So my dear single sisters (and brothers too) be single like children. Trust that it will work out in due season. The bell will ring on time. You will not be forgotten. Be yourselves, because that is the only person worth chasing on the playground.

How else can you be more like a child in your singleness or in your life? Comment box is open- have at it.

xoxo,